My kids are biracial and their dad and I disagree on how to manage their hair.?

My kids dad is black and I am white. He says I should only wash their hair once a week, but they don't have hair like a black person. I wash it every other day and it seems to be fine to me. He also sends my daughter home with so much oil and grease in her hair that it looks greasy. I just put a little moisturizing oil in it and that's it, but he says I have to oil her scalp. Can anyone help me with the names of some products that I can use on them to not make their hair look greasy? I have a boy and a girl. Also, she is 4 1/2 and wants her hair chemically straightened, but I think she's too young and I love her ringletts. Should I straighten it or do you have to wait?

My kids are biracial and their dad and I disagree on how to manage their hair.?

I am biracial too. As a young child I didnt have ringlets. I had a head full of fine lose curls until I hit puberty. My hair was not like most African Americans but it wasnt like most Asians either.(More hispanic than anything) My mother, who is African American, would wash my hair about once or twice a week. She would use pomade or oil (the blue or green grease... by ultrasheen! Your husband probably knows what it is.) And she would use water and a brush. My hair was always in either 1 or 2 pigtails. She did such a nice job on my hair. She really took good care of my hair. Because she comes from a family of managable hair (better than saying Good hair) she knew what to do.

Now I am around biracial kids alot (Im a teacher) and sometimes I just shake my head when I see their hair...most mothers (nonblack) seem to have no clue.

It sounds like your children have curly hair so you should treat it as so. My hair is very curly now, I have ringlets too. And I totally understand why you wash her hair frequently! Its so much easier, to me, to manage after a wash. I wash my hair maybe every other day during warm weather, every day during hot humid days, and once or twice a week during the winter. I have been told time and time again to wash only once a week (told by both blacks and nonblacks). They say that it strips the natural oils that your hair secretes. Im sure the professionals are right so what I do is make sure I add oil to my hair after each wash. I change products quite frequently because my hair changes. I dont like thick products that weigh my hair down like the one my mother used when I was small so I go for oils. I switch between Johnsons and Johnsons baby oil (lots), biosilk (love), Aveda Emmolient (Just a little goes a long way-expensive but well worth it), Ouidad gel and pamade (new stuff Im trying). If you are going to wash your childrens hair every few days or once a week, you are going to have to use something more heavier or just reapply when you do their hair because within a day your kids hair will be dry and frizzy.

About your husband, hes going on experience. Since your kids are black too, maybe hes trying to give you some suggestions. Just dont make a big deal about it to him. Say "okay" and do what you feel comfortable doing. If you are unsure, talk to other parents who have children with hair similar to your kids. There is no one type of hair for blacks, whites, asians, or anybody for that matter. I cant recommend you talk to black hair stylist only, but maybe talk to one that has experience with all hair. My stylist in the states is hispanic. I get my hair done here in Japan by none other than a japanese and Ive had blacks do my hair as well. So go with your gut.

Relaxer- Youre right, shes too young. Wait until puberty to get a relaxer. But its too early. If she wants her hair straight, go ahead and blow dry it. Wash her hair, put leave in conditioner, use a round brush and blow dry her hair out in sections. She can wear her hair straight for a week at least! And you wont even consider washing it because it will be so cute and easy to style. Maybe you can blowdry her hair once a month for a treat but not all the time...if so you might as well get a relaxer!

My kids are biracial and their dad and I disagree on how to manage their hair.?

I think it should be your decision, when she is older she can make her own decision. I would also talk to a hairdresser that has experience in that type hair on what products to use.

My kids are biracial and their dad and I disagree on how to manage their hair.?

I think you may want to wait on the chemical straightening until she gets older...simply becasue of the fact that you are arguing with Dad over this... that kind of procedure would probably cause tension between the 2 of you. Im assuming you dont live with Dad so there is really not too much you can do about her hair when she is there.

You just keep doing what yo udo when she is with you... Why dont you try out all sorts of different hair do's including straightening with a straight iron.... (most girls wit curly hair will still have curls at the end regardless so you wont lose those precious ringlets)

Eventually your daughter is going to make her preference known..and even at dads house she will put her foot down!

My kids are biracial and their dad and I disagree on how to manage their hair.?

Good question, I'm biracial, my kids are 3/4 black. My girls hair is so thick and long I had to relax it just to get a brush through, so it depends on how coarse it is. If its not course, don't relax!! Relaxers are very damaging. Course hair should be washed only once weekly (if even that) because your stripping the natural oils. If its soft than you can wash more often. Talk to a black hair dresser for the products, but again if its not so coarse you don't need to "oil" her scalp. Her dad was brought up with those ideas so he believes them to be right. Keep the ringlets!! And explain to your girl how differences are what makes us beautiful. My girl wanted to dye her hair blond!! She's 5 yrs old. So I had that talk with her. Blond and straight aren't always the idea of beauty. But there are children's relaxers, if you have to do that.

My kids are biracial and their dad and I disagree on how to manage their hair.?

im biracial too. my dads black and my moms white. i wash my hair every other day too. becuase i actually dont have full black hair. oil and grease i bad for my hair. dont get ure daughters hair chimically straigtened she is wayyyyyy too young for it. im 14 and i just got my hair chemically straightened for the first time. and it as called a japanses straightner. but here ringletts are probably cute but if u want more waves in her hair use marc anthony in with the sorta blue/green color shampoo. its called like smooth straight or something. also i use big sexy hair right before i iron my hair. u could iron your daughters hair but still she is probably too young. or biosilk is very good. its sort of experience..... i have tried most hair products and it took my a long time to find the right one before i got my hair straightened. but u can use the stlying creme by marc anthony it used to really maintain my frizz leaving me with curly smooth shiny hair. dont oil her scalp becuase she doesnt have full black hair like i said she also has white hair.so u can also try some of the product u use on her.